Wednesday 18 March 2009

Speak.

I should blog about something. Question is, what?

I've written a bunch of things and then removed them, three times now. I know what I truly wish to write about but I can't.

Maddafakka - att jag inte ens kan skriva om mitt sex- och kärleksliv på MIN blogg.

Technically, I could write what I want. But the trouble that may follow will be too much for me to add to my plate. SO, I will attempt to write about something else. Like my views on love and relationships.

If someone were to ask me what I think about relationships, I would probably respond negatively. But the truth is, I don't know what to think.

On one hand, I find that many relationships are superficial, false, and worse of all, it renders many people helpless and/or weak. Why do we constantly look for happiness in other people? Is it that unbearable to - gaspage! - live your life without a significant partner? I believe the answer is no. In a way, people who constantly search for "the one" disgust me. I also get annoyed with people who fall hard when they fall in and out of love (i.e. they have short-lasting "serious" relationships and never learn from their failures). Both these people tend to be repeatedly dissatisfied with their love lives because they don't understand what a serious relationship is all about. For goodness sake, if you can't do it right, a) try to learn, b) don't complain about it or c) DON'T DO IT.

Seriously. A major factor for success in a relationship has to do with your self-image. If you are not content with yourself, generally unhappy and insecure, you will most likely not reach that ultimate relationship that most people dream of. The "love" you give will be false; you will love because you are being loved back, and what you have is temporary because the foundations aren't strong. Not to mention, the people you attract in life reflect yourself. If your partner's a mess, you should take a look in the mirror; if you are unhappy with your partner, take a look in the mirror. My point is, if you're unhappy with yourself, how on earth do you expect to be happy with someone else? That's two unhappy people in a "loving" relationship. A formula for success? I think not. If you do improve your self-image, it is likely that you'll have a higher chance of a successful relationship. At the same time, you will learn that you can survive without one and can actually be happy staying single.

Despite what I feel about relationships, I do still believe that they can be wonderful as long as they're done right. People just have to start using their heads more. I'm not saying they should suppress their feelings - I'm saying that they need to be smart about it. Because, yes; there is actually more to a relationship that just feelings and sex.

I've said (some of) my peace now and I'll stop - this post went from no writing to a little too much. xD

1 comment:

  1. amazingly written. says just what i think about relationships, and the way you write is very capturing. keep up the good work! :)

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